🎧 Shedding the weight of our past
The key to shedding weight permanently is the most rewarding part of the journey.
Welcome in, this is a long and emotional post so, I am skipping my travel adventure with you all. This week I am baring my soul on the emotional and spiritual connections to stubborn weight and the inability to lose weight, and why we are constantly yo-yoing back and forth. Although it seems everyone is losing weight, we need to address the underlying cause that lead to it in the first place. For my subscribed community the audio to this week’s post is below [🎧Audio is below👇]
Have you ever felt the weight of your own potential suffocating you, shackled by the fear of rejection and failure? It's a sensation I know all too well, the journey through the eating labyrinth of self-doubt and insecurity that has defined much of my life. I had no idea I would be sharing so much of myself with you all this week, as I sat down to write this week’s post.
I can't help but feel a surge of vulnerability coursing through me, the fear of exposing my deepest struggles and insecurities laid bare for all to see. Yet, it's a risk I'm willing to take in the hopes that my journey will resonate with someone out there and moreso know that you are not alone.
This topic is a sensitive one, and I mean you no disrespect as I unfold the words you are about to read. It is a tough subject to talk about personally as I am one whose weight has gone up and down during my half century-plus on this planet. It’s even harder to talk about because my words could be misconstrued as fat shaming.
Fat shaming … a word, that is so loaded on both sides of the coin. It is one that angers me. I honestly believe those that feel fat shamed, are the ones who are deflecting blame to hide their inner insulation. Believe me, I speak from personal experience. I just wish we could do away with such an awful word and instead, just come from a place of love and inner peace. But alas, when we are challenged, we thrash out, if we are not willing to rise to the occasion.
Although I want to share with you the hidden past in weight gain, I must share with you that being over weight does take a physical toll on our body. Our structure is not meant for an abundance of body fat. It just isn’t.
Although we are being led by the media, social media influencers and personal care products to accept our bodies as they are, I believe this is a dangerous message. Accepting our bodies as they are in an obese state is hurting our physiology psychology and spiritual essence keeping us trapped in our inner turmoil. On the outside, we may accept our body, but standing in front of the mirror, naked, are you really reflecting back inner acceptance deeply and completely? If you are then you do not need to read this. And I applaud you for having the self love to be at peace with all your doubts, fears and pain and to accept you.
Seeing the overwhelming number of people selling their souls with the latest weight loss drugs in the hopes of being thin and “beautiful”, seems to solidify that fat shaming is out and thin is in. But, at what cost? How are these drugs going to fix the emotional inner turmoil?
At one time, it was gastric band surgery to release weight. it worked wonders on losing weight, however, the real reason for the weight gain was still there. Some turned to alcohol since they could no longer eat their emotions due to half their stomach being surgically removed.
This is not about fat shaming. I am writing this today as a guide for the soul on the journey towards holistic wellness. Many of us get down because we have tried everything and we can not shed the weight.
If you have truly tried everything and can not lose weight, or, you have decided to give the medical weight loss route a go, let’s journey together beyond the physical realm, into the depths of our spirits and emotions, for therein lies the true keys to unlocking the path to weight release. In fact, this is going to be more powerful than any weight loss drug. Why? because weight loss drugs are just a bandaid. Getting to the root cause of weight gain, is the true release for lasting shedded weight.
Weight gain is often not just a physical manifestation but a reflection of our emotional and spiritual imbalances. Our bodies are sacred vessels, intricately connected to our innermost thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. When we carry excess weight, it is a signal that something within us is seeking healing and balance. It could be unresolved emotions, past traumas, or deep-seated beliefs that no longer serve us, the loss of a loved one or situation and the entailing fear.
Have you noticed, when you are feeling amazing, on top the world and just plain happy that you interact with others, are active and spend less time comfort eating, dwelling on the couch? In fact, the only time we find ourselves over-indulging in foods of comfort is when we are feeling, bored, frustrated, fearful, hurt, sad, in need of love, angry or just want a hug or the comfort of a loved one.
Too often, we approach weight loss with only physical remedies, neglecting the spiritual and emotional aspects of our being. We try countless diets, exercise regimens, and supplements, yet the weight remains stubbornly present. Why? Because we have yet to address the root cause—the spiritual and emotional blocks that are holding us back.
When I was in high school, my best friend and I were more on the heavier side and we had the goofiest or personalities which is why we clicked so well. I used to spend a ton of time at her house hanging out doing what teenagers do. I became aware of something but could never put my finger on it. Both of her older sisters battled with excess weight, with the eldest sister facing obesity and the middle sister carrying more weight than my friend. Interestingly, their brother, who was the youngest, maintained a thin physique. This familial dynamic made me keenly aware of the complexities surrounding weight.
It was not until later in my 30’s still hanging out with my best friend, we were in her back yard, on a warm summer day, she was hanging up freshly laundered clothes. I was deep into psychology back then, but from a spiritual perspective. I am not sure how the subject came up and I was not consciously thinking about her sisters at the time. I have tendency to not see things that others see. I do not see the weight or colour of a person, I do not see their so called imperfections, it is just how I am. It is as if I see their essence and not much more. So, sometimes I just blabber at the mouth and forget to be sensitive.
I was discussing how weight can be a barrier to hide oneself from trauma. I am not sure if someone or something was speaking through me that day to allow for the release of an unseen burden… no, I do believe there was a universal influence that day.
I became aware as I as clamoring on, that my friend became quiet. Too quite. I looked up and she was fixed on a point in the sky. A single tear was rolling down her cheek as if the dropping of the tear to the ground would break the eerie silence. Not really understanding what was going on, I was intuitively quiet, as the unknown gut feeling was quelling, allowing her the space. I felt sick. Looking first into my eyes, then she looked down at the grass, sighed, and was silent once again. I was not sure what to do, and then, she confided in me, the weight of her words felt like an avalanche crashing down upon my soul. The raw honesty in her voice pierced through the air, revealing a darkness I never could have imagined. She spoke of unspeakable horrors endured at the hands of the